Want To Be Happier? Be an Anti-Gossip

It hurts when you're on the receiving end of gossip. Maybe it's time to find a better way, make more friends, and be happier... become an anti-gossip.

You know how painful it can be.

It stung in third grade, and now that you are all-grown-up it still hurts. Alot!

Someone lied about you, betrayed a confidence, started a rumor involving you or simply trashed you behind your back. What the person said hurts. The fact that they said it hurts even more.

Hearing it from a third party makes you wonder how many other people are involved in this damage-your-reputation gossip.

It’s true, isn’t it? What someone says behind your back can be devastating.

Like you, I’ve been on the receiving end. It really, really hurts.

“Isn’t it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?” ~Sean Covey


I have also been the happy beneficiary of behind-my-back comments from one person for decades. That’s right: This person’s comments behind my back always make me happy!

I have met people she has worked with and they have said stuff like: “It’s wonderful to meet you. I have heard so many great things about you.” (Uh, oh. As an insecure person with many shortcomings, I usually think: “I bet they are disappointed now. The reality can’t live up to what’s been said.”)

But at the same time, I’m sure you will agree, it is an exhilarating experience to learn someone has been talking about you behind your back–and, that people think well of you because of the positive things said. That’s good. Really good.

It hurts when you're on the receiving end of gossip. Maybe it's time to find a better way, make more friends, and be happier... become an anti-gossip...

You and I can be that kind of person in someone’s life. A co-worker, friend, family member, neighbor, or church member. It’s a blessing to speak well about anyone whose life you touch–especially, perhaps, when they are not present. And if it “gets back” to that person—they are encouraged beyond words. That’s anti-gossip.

“Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.” Philippians 4:8 (MSG)

Oh, and if you really want to have some fun while seeing the power of anti-gossip on full display, try this: You happen upon some people you know who are trashing someone behind his or her back. No need for you to confront them to set them straight. Simply think of something good to say about the person they are skewering and share it. That will pretty much end the conversation on the spot.

“Fire goes out without wood, and quarrels disappear when gossip stops.” Proverbs 26:20 (NLT)

And who knows? You may become known for being an anti-gossip. Someone people trust and want as a friend.

“How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.” ~Steve Maraboli

Today is the perfect day to change your life by becoming an anti-gossip! 

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  1. Irina Vakulchik says:

    Love this post….I work on this everyday. I think it is important to say good things about people. Everyone always wants to meet my husband because I love praising him. Lets praise others and build others up. Thank you for inspiring me to watch my tongue. Be blessed. 🙂

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