When You Fight To Hold It All Together

When life is hard and you fight to hold it all together - hold on to the One who is there to see you through.

The breaking point in life is when all that we have known or believed falls apart. It is the moment when everything we have held so tightly is brought on their knees. We begin to question the essence of our very existence.

A picture perfect life for a wife, a mother and a soon to be grandmother all suddenly ripped apart by the agonizing pain of death and every memory she had had goes up in smoke.

This poor woman watched her whole life turned into a chaotic mess, did everything but watch helplessly.

Who is she?

Allow me reintroduce, Naomi, the one woman whose life intertwines with ours one way or the other. She has been through it all.

Is life looking like a towering mess?

Is everything falling apart?

Until Naomi’s life was turned upside down there was never going to be a Boaz or an Obed or a Jesse or even King David in her generation.

Bible Reading: Ruth 1: 1-11

Sometimes in the midst of our life story, everything we have needs to fall apart for us to hold that which is priceless and truest.

Like Naomi, we don’t understand why we go through these breaking and re-moulding but we can trust God is in it all and until He is finished we won’t understand it.

Our seemingly perfect life cannot handle the magnitude of God’s assignment.

Let me change your perspective….

When you feel everything is falling apart, everything is rearranging itself to manifest God’s glory which means sometimes there is a shaking here and there and at other times shaking all over the place, until we are prepared, thoroughly ready for your assignment.

We know the process of shaking, breaking, re-moulding isn’t one bit of fun but we can trust God for our glorious end.

Why does He shake us down to our protective core?

Why does God call us to lose it all?

For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; but whosoever shall lose his life for my sake and the gospel’s, the same shall save it. For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?   Mark 8:35-36  KJV

 God knows when we are filled with ourselves there will little space for Him.

We need to lose our lives at the place of the altar through total surrender.

He calls us to surrender all the broken pieces to Him so He can fix us.

And there it is……

Enough fighting!

Enough holding back!

Enough of fighting to hold your life together let God work through and thorough in your life.  


  1. Liz says:

    This is a beautiful post, Ifeoma. I love the picture of redemption in the story of Naomi and Ruth. Thank you for your encouragement to embrace the life God wants for me instead of the one I dream for myself.
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  2. Michele Morin says:

    I love your words about Naomi. So poignant and beautiful. God can do the same work in our hearts, changing our name from Mara, and sponging away all the bitterness!
    Blessings to you, friend!

  3. Dawn says:

    Hey Friend…

    I love this offering you have shared here. Naomi’s story is so dear to me and this part here, ” Until Naomi’s life was turned upside down there was never going to be a Boaz or an Obed or a Jesse or even King David in her generation.” this is good!

    Sometimes we miss the power of this truth when we are in the midst of the falling apart, but we can so trust God, can’t we?!

    Thanks for sharing this.
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  4. Karen Del Tatto says:


    This is such a powerful post!

    I was encouraged, convicted and honestly frightened by the words, “Sometimes in the midst of our life story, everything we have needs to fall apart for us to hold that which is priceless and truest.” Frightened due to my frail humanity, convicted thinking of those things I hold so tightly too above God and encouraged because of the examples you shared from God’s Word reminding me that He redeems everything.

    Thanks for sharing.

  5. Lori says:

    Beautiful words, Ifeoma. The life God has planned for us is not always what we have planned or even want. When we walk through that door the blessings abound.

  6. Valerie says:

    Thank you for sharing this at #100HappyDays Ifeoma.
    Sometimes I feel myself fighting to hold it all together, afraid of the next sorrow to come my way as I wonder, “what will be next?” But I know that God will be with me to help me get closer to Him whatever that next is. Thank you for the reminder that we can trust God at all times to work in our lives. Blessings to you!
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  7. Kathryn Shirey says:

    Wonderful post! I’ve felt this exact thing and know it to be true. Through one of my toughest seasons in life, where I could barely keep it all together, God gently reminded that He was rearranging my life to something better for me and for Him. It’s been quite a process – one that’s still in progress – but it helped to remember that God was working through the struggles and pain.
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  8. Hazel Moon says:

    Your opening lines left me wonder who is this broken woman? Then I realized even though she went through such trying times loosing husband and two sons – her faith in her God remained. Ruth saw that faith and made her decision in saying, where you go, I will go, and your God shall be my God. What a wonderful encouraging remind for us all. Thank you for sharing this story at Tell me a Story.
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